One is for them to be able to actually understand me, and I them.
I have been in relationships in the past where I constantly heard "I don't understand you..".
This was said to me because of my thoughts, my actions, decisions, and generally the words I chose to say and the way I chose to say them.
Talking with other people though was much easier, they understood me, and even if they didn't agree with me, they were still able to understand my point and where I was coming from.
Another value is the ability to understand when mistakes were made and to admit when we are wrong.
Rather than just arguing and being stubborn about mistakes that were made, I appreciate the ability that people have to admit when they are wrong.
I know this isn't always easy, its not easy for me either, but even working trying to improve that is important to me.
Which brings me to the next value - improvement.
I absolutely love it when people try to improve themselves. Not because I necessarily think they need to change or improve themselves, but because it shows a certain humility about a person who is willing and able to accept that some things may need to be improved about themselves.
Its when people don't try to change things or improve things that, at least I believe, life gets a little bit stale.