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Jay Michaelson @Jmm

Trying to find my path in this world of endless opportunities.

Joined Apr 13, 2021
Marketing, development, and project management
Learned web development and marketing at work/home
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Answered a Question    Jun 19

A problem many people face when first starting out with meditation is that they find out just how busy and loud their minds are.
It's a common problem that not only beginners face, but also more advanced and experienced meditators.
Those that are more experienced may just know how to better deal with these situations and how to solve them and quiet their minds quicker than those that are just starting out.

One way to quiet your mind and to stop thoughts from coming while you meditate is to first try to understand what those thoughts are, why they are appearing, and to not fight them.
It's when we try to fight the thoughts that the stream of thoughts become uncontrollable, louder, and more intense.

Instead of fighting them and trying to forcefully expel them, leave them alone. See what those thoughts are and where they lead you to. Allow them to be there, present with you in that moment, and when the time is right, calmly release them and let them go.
Though this may take time to get better at, trying to force your mind to be quiet will probably not work and may just result in you not being able to meditate and quiet your mind.

Don't get angry, upset, or irritated at the thoughts. If they are showing up, it may be for a reason. These thoughts may be what is stressing you out, they may be what is causing your depression, anxiety, or other negative thoughts and emotions. Getting angry or upset will do no good. Instead, accept the situation, and allow it to be until you are able to calmly release those thoughts.

If new thoughts appear, that is ok. Repeat the process, allow them to be. Learn from them, see where they take you, and when you are ready, release them.

As you progress, you will be able to do this much easier and quicker, and eventually will be able to start your meditations with a clearer mind, free from the stream of thoughts. It just takes time, like any other practice.
Expecting to start a meditation practice and not have thoughts is a fair way to burn out from practicing at all, since this is just usually not how meditation works.

Throughout our lives, we have allowed our minds to run wild, without control. Being quiet, for most people, is just not something they have trained themselves to do. Meditation and quieting the mind are skills that need to be developed, and for many, they go against who they have been their whole life, as their whole life was spent without controlling their minds and thoughts.

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Answered a Question    Jun 16

There are many forms of meditation. One form is guided meditation.
In a guided meditation, there will usually be an element that guides you through the meditation itself. This could be a person talking and guiding you, it could be a sound, or it could even be both.
Many guided meditations incorporate the element of sound. These sounds could be the sound of rain, rivers, wind, bells, or even music.

Sound is a useful element in meditation due to how easy it is to follow and stay focused on the sound.
This is especially helpful for beginners who are just starting out with meditation and find it difficult to sit and meditate for long and even short periods of time.

Many beginners and even more experienced meditators, incorporate sound and music into their meditations as it allows them to focus better and get into a meditative state faster.

It also helps in situations where it is difficult to find a quiet place. Putting on music or meditative sounds can reduce the background noise that would otherwise bother you, and allow you to follow the sounds and get into a meditative state.

There is no real limit to what sounds can be used. Just as meditation is a different experience for everyone, so can the sounds being used be different from person to person. Some people find it calming to meditate to the sound of a river stream, while others may prefer the sound of the wind blowing through the forest trees.
Other common sounds are calming acoustic instruments, and abstract sounds.

There is also no limit in terms of the origin of these sounds. If you live near a forest, a river, or any form of nature, it can be incredibly calming to have a meditation session in nature. If you do not have that option, then even putting on music or sounds on your phone is a great option.

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Answered a Question    Jun 11

There is no real rule when it comes to meditation and to how long you should meditate for, it's really up to you.

As a general guideline, though, it's strongly recommended to start out small.
Start with short periods of time, such as 5-minute sessions once or twice a day, and build it up slowly.

It may seem like too little, but even 5 minutes a day of being mindful and meditating can have a huge impact on the rest of your day or night, depending on when you decide to do it.

The reason this is strongly advised is because sitting in meditation can be very difficult, much more difficult than many people actually think.

To sit down for a lengthy time period doing nothing but following your breath or listening to a sound can be a very strange sensation, and one that is simply difficult to do.

Starting out with long sessions is a very risky way to start this practice since you can risk losing motivation for the practice once you see that sitting for 30 minutes or longer is difficult.

Start out with short, 5-minute sessions once a day, then add another session when ever you can. Once that gets easy, you will see that you can naturally progress and add more time to each session. Eventually, you will make your way to those 20-30 minute sessions.
Progressing slowly helps ensure that you do not lose motivation for the practice, and that you don't stress yourself out about not being able to meditate for long periods of time.

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Answered a Question    Apr 27

There is a saying I try to live by: Don't do to others what you wouldn't want done to you.

And this is what frustrates me and upsets me, that others who also try and live by that saying or at least agree with it, do the complete opposite.
Not saying that mistakes don't and won't happen, they do and they will, we are not perfect, and that is part of what is beautiful about us humans.

But, when people purposefully do things to others, that they themselves know they would not want done to them, but consciously make the decision to do those things anyway, that is what gets to me, that is what upsets me.

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Answered a Question    Apr 27

I think much of the youth are much more intellegent than they get credit for. I believe many of them could make a great change.

But, of course, its very difficult to say since there is such a great diversity in the mindset of the younger population.

Answered a Question    Apr 27

This is actually a difficult question to answer, as both can lead to great experiences, even though they may seem like major negative things.

Having too much money and relying on that money can keep you in a very comfortable and safe zone, limiting the adventures and excitement in life.

Being alone allows you to better understand yourself, and to appreciate your own company, rather than relying on others.

People tend to rely on money and on other people to help them feel happiness, believing that those two are conditions to living a full and happy life.

Being alone or lonely isnt always a negative, being broke can cause you to go down new paths you may not have thought of if you had more money.

But, of course, its all a matter of perspective and how each of us define broke and lonely.

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Answered a Question    Apr 27

Freedom.
This is a much bigger concept than the word implies though.

It means being able to have the freedom to be who you want to be, to be where you want to be and do what you want to do, all with the crucial rule of respecting others in the process.

The more you break this rule and show disrespect, the more freedom you lose.

Respecting people includes not preventing them from having their own freedom, and not hurting them or harming them in any way, physically or verbally.

Respecting is not limited to people though, it also means respecting animals and the planet.

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Answered a Question    Apr 11

Going on hikes in nature alone. This is my go-to relaxation exercise for when I am really stressed or I am facing tough decisions and tough times in general.

I may be alone, but, I wouldn't really want it any other way during those times. Being alone allows me to not have to focus on other people. It really allows me to not focus on anything at all. I can just keep on walking without focusing on anything specific. This allows my mind to calm down and relax, which then allows me to start thinking in a much clearer way, without the impulsive thoughts and emotions that I may have due to what ever the situation is in my life.

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Answered a Question    Apr 11

Adventure and a sense of freedom

Answered a Question    Apr 10

The people i meet along the way.
Life is a long journey, ill meet many very important people.

Answered a Question    Apr 9

I dont think that i know how to be a good frined. Its a skill i have yet to develop properly.

I do try my best, but i know that i need to improve on many things, mainly my patience with people.

Answered a Question    Mar 26

Peoples lack of compassion and understanding towards others, and the cruelty in peoples hearts, the abuse they put others through.

Not much else makes me truly angry like people do.

Answered a Question    Mar 15

The difficulty in learning from others mistakes.
I spent my life hearing about how others in my family have done certain things that they wish they had not, actual regrets.
I grew up with the understanding that I would not do those things as they were not what I wanted in life. I knew the kind of life I wanted.

But, as easy as it was to "understand" that I wouldn't make those same mistakes, it was just as easy to actually end up making them.
Looking back, its still difficult for me to understand how I ended up doing the same exact things they did. At times I could even see situations coming. Other times I may have noticed it too late, but realized that I was in it, but still, in both cases, I was unable to get out of it.

Sometimes learning from past mistakes, your own and others, is far more difficult than it seems.

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Mar 11
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Answered a Question    Mar 10

Sitting in a forest. Doing nothing but being between the trees and nature.
Just being there is enough to set my mind free.

Answered a Question    Mar 10

In a way i think it is.
It is definitely missing some very main things that I would like to have in ly life, but I have started putting things in motion.

It's slow, I would like it to go faster, but I think that rushing it could potentially cause more harm than good.

Answered a Question    Mar 6

I see it as a whole. Full and empty, which makes it what it is.

Its difficult to see the bright side of things sometimes, but its also difficult to not get blinded by the good.

The whole glass, full and empty, is perspective.

Answered a Question    Mar 6

Some yes, some no.
Some smaller goals I am achieving, but the bigger ones, the more life-changing ones require big sacrifices that I am not yet ready for.
I try to set smaller, achievable goals when ever possible, to still get a sense of achievement. This really has helped my motivation when things seemed slow.

Answered a Question    Mar 1

I think that it does not, at least thats the logic of it. In reality though, its very difficult to actually feel that it doesnt.
We lived too large of a portion of our lives being taught to care about what others think, that when we finally want to let that go, its very difficult.
That is my experience.

Answered a Question    Feb 26

I think they are equally important.

Some could argue that if you have not been loved, how can you know to love others yourself?
Others could also argue that if you are not capable of loving others, how can others love you?
Both could be correct, it is a matter of perspective.

I believe, though, that they are equally important.
The love we receive from others can teach us how to love ourselves and how to return that love to others.
Negative experiences in our lives can have an impact on our emotions. When we do not feel loved, it can be difficult for us to show love to others. In contrast though, when we feel confident and we feel very loved, it is much easier for us to return that love, and to make others feel as we do.

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