I think it depends on who the person is that is cheering me up.
I think both options can work well if the right person is the one trying to cheer me up, otherwise i prefer to just be alone, preferably in nature where i can clear my mind of negativity.
One of them is a plane ticket back to a place i call home.
The other two i don't know, i will have to think about it. I will edit this answer when i know
I would change my lack of courage that has and still is preventing me from living my dream.
I can't help but also mention one more thing that I would change about myself. My fear of regret.
I have to mention this because I feel that my lack of courage and my fear of regret go hand in hand.
I lack the courage to do what I feel is correct because I feel an enormous sense of fear, a fear of regret. When I think about what consequences decisions will have on my life and others, specifically, what I am letting go of and what others are losing, I can't help but fear the regret that I could feel later on down the road if I ever decide that what I chose was wrong and that I want what I had back. Because, I may not be able to get it back, and if I did, it probably won't be the same as it was.
I lack the courage to get past this fear, I lack the courage to accept my possible regret because there will be regret in any big choice we make, any life-changing choice will eventually lead us down a road that will have at least some amount of regret. How much? We don't know. When? We don't know that either. But the road is not only filled with regret, not if the choice we made is truly what we want in life.
This is what I believe, though, I understand it's easier said than done, hence why I would change this about myself because I have not yet found a way to do it. It is a work in progress.
Mindfulness is not a religion, though it is heavily tied with Buddhism, it is not a religious practice.
Mindfulness is the ability to be fully aware of the present moment. This includes being fully aware of yourself, and your surroundings.
It is a practice that brings your awareness to the present moment, while not being judgmental of any part of it.
I believe its definitely a feeling. The feeling could be towards a place, a group of people, or towards anything else that makes you feel a sense of belonging, that makes you feel that you can be yourself without worrying about it.
I have been living in the same house for the past 8 or 9 years with the same people, in the middle of that I took a break for a while, during that break I found a new home for 6 months.
In this place I felt more at home than I ever felt before in any other place.
It was because of the place, but also because of the people.
It was a place where I could be at peace, with people i didn't have to hide any part of myself from and could be myself without fear.
This is what a home means for me.
You can lie down to meditate, it is perfectly ok, it just depends on the type of meditation you are doing, and it's purpose.
Meditation lying down for sleep is a great way to prepare yourself to fall asleep, especially if you have trouble relaxing before bed.
If you are debating whether you should meditate lying down or sitting, think about what the purpose of the meditation is, and what you will be doing after.
Many people experience back pain and knee pain when first starting out with meditation, which obviously isn't very relaxing. Of course, this gets better as you keep a consistent meditation practice, but if your purpose is to relax before bed then lying down may be a better option.
I don't know if i can consider it a mistake as much as a weakness, but the lack of courage in life may has caused me to make many mistakes, with the main one being time spent not living my dream, even though i had every single option to do so.
I consider it a mistake that i did not focus more on developing courage. Looking back though, i may have not even known that a lack of courage was the issue, but now i believe that it is, i didn't have the courage to do what i felt was right.
I learned that, for me, its the hardest thing to let go, and that without the courage to do so, i won't, and this is what happened for years, and throughout all of these years i put myself on hold in a way.
I learned that, at least for me in my experience, until you find that courage that you need to do what you believe is right, the "it gets better" is only partially true.
It did get better, but the dream life never left my heart, so i was torn between that life and the life i was actually living, and it was visible in many ways, throughout these years i was distant with the people closest to me, had no patience most of the time, i got mad and angry easily, lacked basic motivation, and a long list of other things.
These things may have defined me for the past few years, but they are not who i am.
The pulling in both directions, living my dream life and not having courage to leave my current life, brought out the worst in me.
So what i have learned is that you must find the courage to do the things you want to do in life, to live the life you want, you must find the courage to say what you feel and make the choices you know or feel are the right ones, rather than not doing so because of fear.
Life without courage can change you for the worst, it turned me into someone i am not.
In simple terms, mindfulness is the ability to be present, or focused, on the current moment. This includes the things happening around you, and within you.
To maybe make it even simpler, it's the ability to be able to not be on autopilot in our day-to-day lives, which most people are on.
Most people just live life and go through their days reacting to the events that occur, but while you are mindful, you are not on autopilot, and you are not just reacting to what happens, you are more prepared to accept what is happening, and are better able to understand it and make better decisions.
When we are on autopilot, many times we just instantly react to what ever happens or to what ever is said. When we are mindful, we let it sink in, we understand it, and then we can better know how to proceed.
It allows us to live a calmer and more peaceful life, with less stress and anxiety, and a better acceptance of ourselves, the people in our lives, and the world around us.
It helps us to not be stuck and focused on the past, or the future, but to be focused on the present moment, on the now.
I think i haven't been enabling myself to do them, and i feel its due to fear of losing what i currently have.
If i leave and do the things i want to do it will involve leaving behind most of what i currently have, and when i think about all the things i want to do, it feels worth it, but when i think about what i actually have and about leaving it, i instantly turn around and say to myself that it just may not be worth losing it all..
On one hand when i think about all the things i want to do, i feel i need to leave, but on the other hand when i get close to leaving i think about all i do have and want to stay.
I feel a fear of possible regret, that if i do leave to do the things i can only dream about now, and eventually find out that they aren't what i thought they would be for me, i would have left everything i do care about behind, but i also feel that i cannot continue with what i have now while always feel like i want and need to leave.
There is a lot of back and forth, fear, and a serious lack of courage.
Meditation and its results are very individual, so it's hard to say how long you have to meditate to see results.
A key guideline to keep in mind though is to not push yourself in the beginning to meditate for longer time periods. Instead, focus on having a consistent meditation practice.
A consistent meditation practice can even consist of just 5-10 minutes of meditation per day. It really doesn't have to be longer than that, especially not in the beginning.
Pushing yourself to meditate for longer can just increase the risk of burning out and stopping the practice completely.
Having a consistent meditation practice that is long-lasting, meaning, one that you will do on a regular basis as a way of life, that is short will bring many more results and have a much bigger impact than doing a few long sessions once in a long while.
Consistency is key here.
